I am easy to please. I never expect gifts, and I’m unused to luxuries, so I’m easily dazzled. But I know that many of you find joy in offering gifts, so here are a few ideas.
Tokens of affection
- Small-to-medium houseplants
- Loud or funky jewelry: Dangly earrings (hook type, not post type), 00 g plugs, rings, chokers
- Gift cards for coffee shops near my incall (Leon Coffee House, Cafe Allegro, Ancient Gate, Starbucks)
- Used books (right now I am especially interested in cookbooks; some favorites include Ottolenghi, Julia Turshen, Kenji Lopez-Alt, and technique-focused books on dessert baking or international cuisines)
- Fun thrifted hoodies, flannel button-downs, or chunky turtleneck sweaters
happy medium
- Toys for playtime
Air pulse toys(purchased Dec. 2025, thank you!)- Spareparts Joque harness
- A super-powerful, rumbly wand (see this table for a comparison of tested options)
Bed restraints(purchased Dec. 2025, thank you!)
- Contributions to caring for my body and mind
- Acupuncture or massage therapy
- Coaching sessions
- Spa treatments (facials, manicures, etc. … I never do this stuff for myself, so it feels very fancy and special)
- A vintage leather biker jacket (let’s buy this together to make sure it’s a perfect fit)
- A sturdy immersion blender
- A shopping trip to buy art prints for my incall
- Interesting lingerie, especially a trip to Bellefleur to select some together (~10 min from my incall!)
grand gestures
- Cosmetic procedures (I have several in mind)
- Sponsored photoshoots
- International travel dates (a few destinations high on my list: Japan, the Edinburgh Fringe Festival, South Korea, Berlin, Mexico City … but as long as we’re together, I know we’ll have a good time)
- A replacement used car that is slightly less close to collapse than my current one (I do not want a new car)
- Original art for my incall